Interested in starting your entrepreneurial journey in personal development, but not sure what to expect? Then read up on our interview with Filiz Tamer, founder of Quiet Confidence, from Canada.
Tell us all about your business...
I help introverts have fun and fulfilling dating lives. My clients are kind, logical thinkers with busy professional lives. They think before they speak, are great listeners, prefer deep one-on-one conversations to group activities, and often feel drained after being out even if they've enjoyed themselves. They long for commitment, connection, and chemistry but feel like they're falling behind in their love lives. That's where I come in.
What's your background and motivation to grow as a solopreneur?
Over the past ten years, I worked alongside many introverted researchers, engineers, and other professionals at top-tier organizations. I started to notice a trend: an impressive number of knowledgeable, kind, curious friends and colleagues struggled with their dating lives. And they all happened to be introverts.
I could relate. Despite feeling confident in many areas of my life, I spent years struggling with my confidence in dating and love.
Dating is not intuitive, and as an introvert and professional with a tight schedule, it often felt like I was spending time on dates I knew weren't going anywhere. Or I was adjusting my values to please my partners. Most of the advice I received from friends, articles, and videos didn't resonate, and following it felt like an act. It just wasn't me.
I founded Quiet Confidence to create what I wish existed when I was dating.
What's your biggest accomplishment as a business owner?
I love helping people with burning problems. If they're unhappy or feel awkward in their love lives, they often go to sleep and wake up thinking about it. It's gratifying to help my clients find what they're looking for, whether it's more dating experience or a long-term committed relationship.
Seeing a client find and come to enjoy a new relationship is incredibly fulfilling!
What's one of the hardest things that come with being a solopreneur?
Prioritizing my to-do list and doing sales calls. Before starting my business, the last time I sold something was a caramel chocolate bar for a fundraiser in elementary school. The key to easing my nerves was the genuine belief that I provide value to my clients.
What are the top tips you'd give to anyone looking to start, run or grow a small business today?
- There is a misconception that you have to have an innovative business idea to stand out and be successful, which holds people back from starting a business. You don't have to reinvent the wheel. There's no shame in taking an existing idea that resonates with you and making it your own. Make sure it aligns with your interests, has market potential, and is related to something you've been told you're good at.
- This sounds obvious, but I wish it had been drilled into me more: there's no better way to learn than practicing with real clients. Your first clients don't need to pay the total price; charge them a lower fee and test your product. Then, ask for honest feedback, implement any changes, and repeat after you gain some experience, set your price according to the value you provide.
- You don't live to work. Rest should not be connected to more output. As the owner, you want your business to succeed more than anyone. The notion that you can't pour from an empty cup is true, but rest is not the reward for hard work; it's simply part of the work. I still struggle with this paradigm shift at times!
Is there anything else you'd like to share?
Imposter syndrome is real. Starting, I was terrified of questions around my qualifications. At the end of the day, though, the proof is in the pudding: my clients are all people I've helped. Your clients' willingness to work with you is all the qualifications you need. Chances are you're starting your business based on past experiences that have gone well. With the money you're earning, you're creating a positive impact on those around you.
Where can people find you?
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